Love: always ready for benefit of Doubt.

Love is not deceived . . . but it is always ready to give the benefit of the doubt. Thomas Inman, in the 19th century, recommended that his fellow doctors not prescribe a medicine for a cure if they weren’t sure it would work. They were to give the patient “the benefit of our doubts.” This phrase is also a legal term meaning that if a jury has conflicting evidence that makes the jurors doubtful, they are to give the verdict of “not guilty.” Perhaps as human persons, we can learn from and apply this medical and legal phrase to our relationships. Better yet, we can learn from the Bible about giving the benefit of the doubt to others. First Corinthians 13:7 says that love “bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, and endures all things.”
Leon Morris, in the Tyndale New Testament Commentaries, says this about the phrase “believes all things”: “To see the best in others . . . . This does not mean that love is gullible, but that it does not think the worst (as is the way of th…

Choice: the heart of Friendship.

A faithful friend is an elixir of life, a sturdy shelter and a treasure.
We all know from our experience that one of the great blessings in life is friendship. We value our friends deeply. We are very aware that our lives would be the poorer without them. One of the books of the Old Testament, from which we don’t often read, the Book of Sirach, has some very striking things to say about friendship. It was written about one hundred and eighty years before the birth of Jesus. It is clearly written by someone who knew the value of friendship in his own life. At one point, the author says the following about friendship: ‘a faithful friend is a sturdy shelter: whoever has found one has found a treasure. There is nothing so precious as a faithful friend, and no scales can measure their excellence. A faithful friend is an elixir of life; and those who fear the Lord will find one’. The image of a faithful friend as a sturdy shelter, as a treasure, rings true to all our experience. It is difficu…

Motivation: Keep rolling the boat...

My Mom used to cook beans,  but before she cooks the beans, she picks the bad and useless beans and throw them at the backyard whilst she cook the good beans. 
But when it rains, the bad beans becomes seed and grows up and looks beautiful. 
The same person who threw them away starts to harvest them. She realizes that the beans she threw away has *VALUE* . 
Don't cry when people *THROW* you at the *BACKYARD* , Don't cry when people *REJECTS* you, Don't cry while they are *LOOKING DOWN* on you.
 The *RAIN* is coming and the same people who are *REJECTING* you today will beg to *HARVEST* you tomorrow.

SELFISH RELATIONSHIP: Common signs and indications.

“In an individual, selfishness uglifies the soul;  for the human species, selfishness is extinction.”  ~ David Mitchell, Cloud Atlas

1. Your partner is always nagging and belittling you.
There is a difference between someone pushing and pulling you to reach your goals with a cheerleader personality, and another making you feel worthless. A selfish person will never take your needs into consideration. They will do anything possible to make you feel worthless so that things are always about them. The focus can only be on what they are accomplishing. If you find yourself giving and never receiving this is the imbalance of a selfish relationship. Psychologist Daniel Goleman, author of Emotional Intelligence, writes: “Self-absorption in all its forms kills empathy, let alone compassion. When we focus on ourselves, our world contracts as our problems and preoccupations loom large. But when we focus on others, our world expands. Our own problems drift to the periphery of the mind and so seem …

ABOUT AFRICA - If we don’t define ourselves, others will define us

A story is told of a certain zoo somewhere in Africa. In this zoo, there are many beautiful animals. Environmentis wonderful. But, as you go through the door of the zoo, the first cage that you see has got a monkey in it, and that monkey is doing masturbation.And it does the business all day. So, when the people come into this zoo, the first thing they see is this monkey doing its business. And they are actually so engrossed by what it’s doing. They don’t want to go any further. And they never get to see the wonderful animals. And they never get to see the wonderful environment that this zoo has. And when they leave, they go back and they tell their friends about the monkey and what it’s doing.

So their friends come and they don’t go any further. They stop and they look at the monkey.This story could be compared to Africa.It is a continent with a wealth of beauty, but this beauty is hardly brought to the screen by the media.It’s ignored. For years, Mother Africa has been disfigured as…

The "Desert University"

"The desert is the university where God teaches His people".
A mother camel and her baby are talking one day and the baby camel asks, “Mom why have we got these huge three-toed feet?” The mother replies, “To enable us trek across the soft sand of the desert without sinking.” “And why have we got these long, heavy eyelashes?” “To keep the sand out of our eyes on the trips through the desert ”replies the mother camel. “And Mom, why have we got these big humps on our backs?” The mother, now a little impatient with the boy replies, “They are there to help us store fat for our long treks across the desert, so we can go without water for long periods.” “OK, I get it!” says the baby camel, “We have huge feet to stop us sinking, long eyelashes to keep the sand from our eyes and humps to store water. Then, Mom, why the heck are we here in the Toronto zoo?” Modern life sometimes makes one feel like a camel in a zoo.
And like camels in a zoo we need sometimes to go into the desert in …

Wisdom of the Timid...

The timid ones with their silent characteristics are the wisest, for in silence the truth is told. «Do you know what charm is? It is to hear a yes as an answer without having asked anything. The sad ones have two reasons for being so: they ignore or expect. True generosity towards the future consists in giving everything in the present. I love life, so true that I have no imagination for what is not life. There is no generous love other than that which is both transient and singular. The characteristic of the absurd man is to not believe in the deep meaning of things. He trespasses, stores and burns the warm or charming faces of the world. Time walks with him. The absurd man is the one who does not separate himself from time.