23/07/2018

LOVE: a “very demanding mistress"


Many relationships that seemed strong at the 
beginning are falling apart when the “good times”   
leave and the “bad times” come.




God promises to “give you divine strength in hard times and to be always faithful to you. God cannot be unfaithful and so you can be utterly certain that he will always be by your side, ready and eager to give you whatever you need along the road you will travel together.
True love is not an emotion or feeling that flees during the bad times, but it is a choice rooted in the grace that came when the relationship started.

So, what does it mean to love one another? It means self-sacrifice and self-donation. It means giving yourself to the other with no conditions, no strings attached and even where this incurs suffering.
“Some relationships have the attitude of ‘I will love you so long as you love me.’ That is the wrong sentiment. The true Christian stance should be ‘I will love you always, even if you do not love me back.’ My love for you is not a faucet which I can turn on and off. It is an immutable fact, and you 
can totally trust in that.”

“Other relationships say, ‘I will love you as long as you meet my needs.’  Well, that is hardly love at all. It is totally conditional, and the bottom line is, of course, that no human being can meet all of your needs all of the time and you can’t either."

Love means serving one another. And, to do that well it means exploring each other as persons, discovering what makes your other happy and content, knowing what makes him or her unhappy or sad or even irritable and then setting about the holy task of serving with your special talents. Do everything for the other which is pleasing and as much as you can avoid that which is displeasing.
A test of true love is a “willingness to lay down your life for one another; which could happen in two ways.

The first way is in the day-to-day routine of life, dying to self for the sake of the other in all kinds of little ways, giving up your immediate needs in the interest of your partner.
The second way is not the likeliest, but who knows what the Holy Spirit may ask of you, and that is to actually risk and even lose your life in order to save the other. The first way is the white martyrdom of day-to-day living. The second way is the red martyrdom, which guarantees instant entry into heaven.

McDonald calls love a “very demanding mistress.” “She demands everything you’ve got in donating your all to your partner.”

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