“On Death and Dying“

The idea of death makes one aware of one's life, one's vital being – that which is impermanent and will one day end.  When this vitality is appreciate, one feels free – for there is no urgency to perform some act that will cancel the possibility of death, seeing as though there is no such act.  In this sense, all human activity is absurd, and the real freedom is to be aware of life in its actually and totally, of its beauty and its pain. (Albert Camus)

 

There are 5 stages of grief or sorrow for terminally ill persons may go through upon learning of their terminal illness. These five stages are:

1. First is Denial. What is the first thing they do? The first reaction is shock. The universal first reaction to hearing the news is, “No.”  The second stage that quickly follows is denial. Terminally ill patients would say: “This cannot be happening to me.”
2. Second is Anger. “%$@^##& car!”, “I should have junked you years ago.” Do we slam our hand on the steering wheel? I have. “I should just leave you out in the rain and let you rust.”
3. Third is Bargaining. Like when we are going to work realizing that we’re going to be late for work, we say “Oh please car, if you will just start one more time I promise I’ll buy you a brand new battery, get a tune up, new tires, belts and hoses, and keep you in perfect working condition.
4. Fourth is Depression. This is one of the examples of what we say when we are depressed: “Oh God, what am I going to do. I’m going to be late for work. I give up. My job is at risk and I don’t really care anymore. What is the use?”
5. Fifth is Acceptance — “Ok. It’s dead. Guess I had better call the Auto Club or find another way to work. Time to get on with my day; I’ll deal with this later,” is one of the statements we say when we accept our situation.

Source: #Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

Thank you letter to Men...(Happy men's day!)

Dear Men..
Sometimes I wonder where you draw your strength from.
You stay for months without buying clothes for yourself all because you want to put food on the table...
You stay hungry just so your family can eat and survive..
You get dressed and leave the house without direction, but you come back home with money after toiling day and night..

Some of you have been embarrassed, disgraced and abused because you can't afford to get a decent job and when you bring home peanuts, they throw it right back in your face..
I know how you have deprived yourself of basic education just so your children can eat..
Most times you are insulted, abused by people you are older than, but you take the insults all because of your wife and kids..
Your parents look up to you for survival and they don't even care if you have a job or not, you just have to provide for the family..
You pay huge bride prices just to marry the woman you love and you end up taking care of her family, take care of her siblings and even train some of them..
How you do all these amazes me and I pray the good lord to bless your hustle..
Stay alive for your mother, your wife and your kids!!
If you have a man that tries, a brother that tries, take one day and appreciate him, he might be starving just for you to survive!!
Dear men, thou art blessed!!

Happy International Workers’ Day - May 1

As we celebrate the international workers' day - May 1, it is a special moment to appreciate labour and work in terms of some basic values:

1. As Vocation: Through labour and work, we give meaning to our existence. We realize that we are not just here to waste time and to occupy space. We have a unique role to play; we have contributions to make in our world. 
2. As Stewardship: Through labour and work, we show the highest accountability for all the talents and abilities that God, nature and education endowed on us. 
3. As Service: Through our labour and work, we employ our talents and abilities not only to make a living but to meet the needs of others.