The Cross +

The Cross +

   Today we celebrate the Triumph of the Cross. There are two aspects of the cross: sorrow and glory – a sign of contradiction and the source of our salvation.

"A housewife was busy doing the house chores when suddenly her husband came from behind embracing her tightly and carried her around the house lovingly. The woman surprisingly blurted out: “Hey sweetheart why the sudden affection?” To which the husband retorted: “Well, the priest today in his homily said that we have to carry our crosses daily with love.”

            What a wonderful application of Jesus’ words about loving our crosses. Wouldn’t it be nice if you embrace your husband/wife/friends/relatives/teachers/children instead of cursing them as your crosses in life? You can practically apply these to people you consider crosses in your lives. And you will see the transformation it will make in any of your relationships.

            What could possibly be our crosses? Uncharitable criticisms, insults, indifference, ingratitude, illness, disability, infidelity, endless tasks, unrewarding work, abandonment, etc.? Heed Jesus’ call about the cross as a blessing and life will be more bearable and meaningful. God bless.

Saint Gianna - Patron Saint of Mothers, Unborn Children...

Saint Gianna

Patron Saint of Mothers, Unborn Children and the World Meeting of Families

            Saint Gianna Beretta Molla (October 4, 1922 – April 28, 1962) was an Italian pediatrician, wife and mother who is best known for refusing both an abortion and a hysterectomy when she was pregnant with her fourth child, despite knowing that continuing with the pregnancy could result in her death. She was canonized as a Saint of the Catholic Church in 2004.

            Gianna Beretta Molla was born in Magenta, Italy as the tenth of thirteen children in her family, only nine of whom reached adulthood. When she was three, her family moved to Bergamo, and she grew up in the Lombardy region of Italy. In 1942, Gianna began her study of medicine in Milan. She received a medical diploma in 1949, and opened an office in Mesero, where she specialized in pediatrics.

In December 1954, Gianna met Pietro Molla, an engineer who worked in her office. They were officially engaged the following April, and they married in September 1955. They welcomed the births of their children Pierluigi, in 1956, Mariolina, in 1957, and Laura in 1959.

            In 1961, Gianna was pregnant again. During the second month, Gianna developed a fibroma on her uterus. After examination, the doctors gave her three choices: an abortion, a complete hysterectomy, or removal of only the fibroma. Gianna opted for the removal of the fibroma, wanting to preserve her child’s life.

            Gianna clearly expressed her wishes to her family saying, “This time it will be a difficult delivery, and they may have to save one or the other – I want them to save my baby.” On April 21, 1962, Holy Saturday of that year, Gianna went to the hospital, where her fourth child, Gianna Emanuela, was successfully delivered by Caesarean section. However, Gianna continued to have severe pain, and died of septic peritonitis 7 days after the birth.

            Gianna was beatified by Pope John Paul II on April 24, 1994, and canonized on May 16, 2004. Gianna’s husband Pietro, and their children Laura, Pierluigi & Gianna, were present at the canonization ceremony, the first time in the history of the Church that a husband witnessed his wife’s canonization. In his homily at her canonization Mass, Pope John Paul II called Gianna “a simple, but more than ever, significant messenger of divine love.”

Fun Facts

            The miracle recognized by the Catholic Church to canonize Gianna Molla involved a mother, Elizabeth Comparini, who had complications around her 16th week of pregnancy. She prayed to Gianna Molla, asker for her intercession in the life of her child, who was healthy when delivered despite the premature date.

            Saint Gianna is the inspiration behind the Gianna Center in New York City. It is the first pro-life, Catholic healthcare center for women in New York. The Gianna Center provides primary care with specialized gynecologic care.

Prayers

            God our Father we praise You and we bless you because in Saint Gianna Beretta Molla you have given us one who witnessed to the Gospel as a young women, as a wife, as a mother, and as a doctor. We thank you because through the gift of her life we can learn to welcome and honour every human person. Holy Spirit, Source of every perfection, give us wisdom, intelligence, and courage so that, following the example of Saint Gianna and through her intercession, we may know how to place ourselves at the service of each person we meet in our personal, family and professional lives, and thus grow in love and holiness. Amen.

Quote

Love and sacrifice are closely linked, like the sun and the light. We cannot love without suffering and we cannot suffer without love – Saint Gianna.

Never trust an untested Person...

Never trust an untested Person...

            The Eagle tests before it trusts. When a female eagle meets a male and they want to mate, she flies down to earth with the male pursuing her and she picks a twig. She flies back into the air with the male pursuing her. Once she has reached a height high enough for her, she lets the twig fall to the ground and watches it as it falls. The male chases after the twig. The faster it falls, the faster he chases it. He has to catch it before it falls to the ground. He then brings it back to the female eagle. The female eagle grabs the twig and flies to a higher altitude and then drops the twig for the male to chase. This goes on for hours, with the height increasing until the female eagle is assured that the male eagle has mastered the art of catching the twig which shows commitment. Then and only then, will she allow him to mate with her.

           Leaving the animal kingdom for human, commitment is too expressed better in this passage of the bible: Naomi said, “See now! Your sister-in-law has gone back to her people and her god. Go back after your sister-in-law!" But Ruth said, “Do not ask me to abandon or forsake you! For wherever you go, I will go, wherever you lodge I will lodge,
your people shall be my people, and your God my God.” 1 Ruth 1:1, 3-6, 14b-16, 22.

          Whether in private life or in business, one should test commitment of people intended for partnership.

The Power of Ideas and Words...Advice to men/women!

The Power of Ideas and Words...Advice to men/women!

            Words are the easiest and most common form of communication. Great preachers have inspired saints. Great words when written, last and can be read and reread. Words are wonderful things that please the ear and the mind. More important, good and kind words, when spoken at the right time, can heal a wounded heart. As somebody had said that, words are also the first and easiest means of communication with God. This week I was reading a book by Myles Munroe, "The Purpose and Power of Love & Marriage", of which I came across these words and ideas he puts across. I could not go without sharing them:

1. “God did not create woman from man’s head, that he should command her, nor from his feet, that she should be his slave, but rather from his side that she should be near his heart.”
2. "A woman may be beautiful but have poor character. A man may be a business genius, making money left and right, but lack common courtesy, sensitivity, and compassion.”
3. “The first basic need of a male is sexual fulfillment; for a female, affection. The second most basic need of a male is recreational companionship; for a female, communication and conversation. The third basic need of a male in a relationship is an attractive woman; for a woman, honesty and openness. The fourth basic need of a male is domestic support; for a female, financial support. The fifth basic need of a male is admiration and respect; for a woman, family commitment.”
4. “Here are a few important principles to remember with regard to the giving and receiving between males and females. When a male demands, a female reacts; she doesn’t respond. When a male gives, a female responds. When a male commits, a female submits. Nothing is more precious to a female than a committed male. Nothing is no more depressing to a female than an uncommitted male. Here’s the secret, guys: If you want a submitted female, be a committed male. It’s that simple. When a male abuses, a female refuses. Whenever a man abuses a woman, she refuses to respond. When a male shares, a female cares. If you find a man who is willing to share with the woman in his life, you will find a woman who is willing to care for her man. When a male leads, a female follows. When a man carries out his God-given responsibility for leadership, a woman responds by following his lead. Leadership does not mean being bossy, always telling others what to do. No, leadership means going ahead, not putting others in the front. Good leaders lead by example, not by decree. Jesus led by example, and so did Moses, Peter, Paul, and all the other great leaders in the Bible. Leading by example means doing ourselves the things we wish others to do.”
   

Understanding Envy and Jealousy...

Understanding Envy and Jealousy...

Are you envious because I am generous? Mt 20:1-16:

            Generosity means that we rejoice in the success and good fortune of others. And what is envy? “Envy,” somebody said, “is a kind of spiritual sickness that restricts the heart so that it cannot rejoice in the good of others, much less, gives to them. Envy is a two-person situation whereas jealousy is a three-person situation. Envy is a reaction to lacking something. Jealousy is a reaction to the threat of losing something (usually someone). Envy occurs when we lack a desired attribute enjoyed by another. Jealousy occurs when something we already possess (usually a special relationship) is threatened by a third person.

            So why the confusion? One problem is an unfortunate sematic ambiguity with the word “jealousy” (but NOT with the word “envy”). If you ask people to describe a situation in which they felt jealous, they are as likely to describe an experience of envy (e.g., "I wished I had my friend's good looks") as of jealousy (e.g., "my girlfriend danced with an attractive guy"). Naturally, this creates a sense that jealousy and envy are very similar—even though they are actually quite different.

God is Jealous

God is also jealous but it’s not exactly the same as human jealousy because God is jealous for the right reasons as we read about in Deuteronomy 4:23-24 “Take care, lest you forget the covenant of the Lord your God, which he made with you, and make a carved image, the form of anything that the Lord your God has forbidden you.  For the Lord your God is a consuming fire, a jealous God.”  The Hebrew word for jealous in this verse is “qanna’” which means “jealous only for God” so God’s jealous is for our own good.  He is jealous when we make an idol that competes or takes the place of where God should be in our lives…that is first and foremost.  Money, family, work, friends, sports, and even Whatsapp or Facebook can become an idol in our lives.  The saying that our hearts are idol factories have been attributed to John Calvin, although I was unable to document this, it’s still true.  The human heart is bent to perpetually forge idols of numerous things and people. God wants us to put Him first and when we do, God promises to provide for all of our needs (Matt 6:33). Jesus said that we should “love the Lord God with all the heart, mind, soul and strength” (Mark 12:30).

            However if you have the predisposition of jealousy or envy, you are not alone.  The human heart is bent toward material things and lusts of the heart.  God is the only one Who can change the human heart (Prov 21:1). 

 

The Sins of the Heart:

H – Hatred

E – Envy

A – Anger

R – Resentment

T – Timidity

Enjoy been what you are....

Enjoy been what you are....

            Fear of social judgment wears many masks: shame, shyness, etiquette, prudence, perfectionism. Whatever form it comes in, its impact is to limit, to constrain, to constrict.

People who fear social judgment miss out on much of life. Across the room they see what could be the person of their dreams, but they don’t approach because of what a roomful of strangers might think if they’re rejected. By caring what these strangers think, they’re allowing people they’ll never see again to control their behaviour.

As I was reading my bible this week, I came across this passage from the Book of Judges; it gives us an opportunity to meditate about living and enjoying ourselves rather than dreaming to live on other's lives and opinions:

            (1 Jgs 9:6-15) "....Once the trees went to anoint a king over themselves. So they said to the olive tree, ‘Reign over us.’ But the olive tree answered them, ‘Must I give up my rich oil, whereby men and gods are honoured, and go to wave over the trees?’ Then the trees said to the fig tree, ‘Come; you reign over us!’ But the fig tree answered them,
‘Must I give up my sweetness and my good fruit, and go to wave over the trees?’ Then the trees said to the vine, ‘Come you, and reign over us.’ But the vine answered them,
‘Must I give up my wine that cheers gods and men, and go to wave over the trees?’ Then all the trees said to the buckthorn, ‘Come; you reign over us!’ But the buckthorn replied to the trees, ‘If you wish to anoint me king over you in good faith,
come and take refuge in my shadow. Otherwise, let fire come from the buckthorn and devour the cedars of Lebanon.’”

            As says my old friend in motivation, Myles Munroe, “When purpose is not known, abuse is inevitable”; know your purpose in life - be the olive tree, the fig and the vine; don't be the buckthorn!

Don't cry for Moses, be Joshua...

Don't cry for Moses, be Joshua...

            Ex. 3: 9 - The Lord said to Moses, "I have indeed heard the cry of my people, and I see how the Egyptians are oppressing them. Now I am sending you to the king of Egypt so that you can lead my people out of his country.” As many of us do, Moses had many excuses before God on why he could not fulfill his calling. Finally he accepted; but it is interesting to note that Moses never set foot in the Promised Land during his lifetime. Moses brought Israel to the borders of Canaan, and then died and left them. This signifies that our 'Moses' mean nothing perfect; they only bring men/women into a wilderness of conviction, but not into the Canaan of rest and settled peace.

            Num. 11: 10-15: Moses, “Lord, why have you brought me this trouble? How have I displeased you that you put the burden of all these people on me? Am I their mother? Did I give birth to them? Are you really asking me to carry them in my arms - as a nurse carries a baby - all the way to the land you promised their ancestors with an oath? Where can I get meat for all these people? They keep crying for me to give them meat to eat. I can’t take care of all these people by myself. This is too much work for me! If this is how you’re going to treat me, why don’t you just kill me? I can’t face this trouble anymore.”

            Dt 31:1-8 - Moses said to them, “I am now one hundred and twenty years old and am no longer able to move about freely; besides, the LORD has told me that I shall not cross this Jordan...It is Joshua who will cross before you, as the LORD promised. Dt 34:1-12 - The LORD said to Moses, “This is the land which I swore to Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob that I would give to their descendants. I have let you feast your eyes upon it, but you shall not cross over.” So there, in the land of Moab, Moses, the servant of the LORD, died as the LORD had said; and he was buried in the ravine; Joshua 3:7-11, 13-17 - The Lord said to Joshua, ‘This very day I will begin to make you a great man in the eyes of all Israel, to let them be sure that I am going to be with you even as I was with Moses". The honour to see Canaan was reserved for Joshua, our Lord Jesus, of whom Joshua was a type, (and the name is the same). Be the Joshua, and let Moses remain at the borders! Live Without Excuses and Love without Regret.